On Boy Erased – The Memoir of An Ex-Gay Therapy Survivor

I first heard of Boy Erased through Facebook, and I did what so many people do: scroll, scroll, scroll, tap to pause, then scroll some more. But something caught my eye and I tapped to pause the flicking motion to thumb back up. It was a post from OUT Magazine about a man named Garrard Conley, titled: Exclusive: The Pain of Ex-Gay Conversion Therapy Experienced Firsthand.

This piqued my interest. You see, when I was younger I checked myself in to therapy to cure my "problem" – yes, you read correctly. But that's another story for another time.

I connected with Garrard socially, started following his twitter feed, and soon found myself buying the digital version of his book. I waiting for it's download in anticipation and began reading with unquenchable thirst.  His story resonated with mine, and took me on a roller coaster ride of emotions making me shed tears, gasp, and on occasion want to reach through the pages to strangle a character or two. 

If you're a parent considering sending your child off to conversion therapy, please read this book first. If you're considering checking yourself in, please read this book first. If you want to understand what conversion therapy does to a human emotionally, physically and psychologically, read this book.

"The son of a Baptist pastor and deeply embedded in church life in small town Arkansas, as a young man Garrard Conley was terrified and conflicted about his sexuality.
When Garrard was a nineteen-year-old college student, he was outed to his parents, and was forced to make a life-changing decision: either agree to attend a church-supported conversion therapy program that promised to “cure” him of homosexuality; or risk losing family, friends, and the God he had prayed to every day of his life. Through an institutionalized Twelve-Step Program heavy on Bible study, he was supposed to emerge heterosexual, ex-gay, cleansed of impure urges and stronger in his faith in God for his brush with sin. Instead, even when faced with a harrowing and brutal journey, Garrard found the strength and understanding to break out in search of his true self and forgiveness. 
By confronting his buried past and the burden of a life lived in shadow, Garrard traces the complex relationships among family, faith, and community. At times heart-breaking, at times triumphant, this memoir is a testament to love that survives despite all odds."

Photo credit: Colin Boyd Shafer

Photo credit: Colin Boyd Shafer

Garrard Conley’s fiction and nonfiction can be found in The Common, The Madison Review, The Virginia Quarterly Review, and elsewhere. He has received scholarships from the Bread Loaf, Sewanee, and Elizabeth Kostova Foundation writers' conferences


Am auzit despre cartea Boy Erased de la Facebook. Am făcut ce mulți fac pe Facebook: mă uitam navigând în jos, tot în continoare până când ceva a sărit la atenția mea. A fost un articol de la revista OUT despre un om numit Garrard Conley entitulat: Exclusiv: Durerea Terapie de Conversie Ex-gay, Experiență Personală.

Acest lucru a stărnit în mine un mare interes. Când eram tânăr, m-am internat eu singur la un astfel de terapie pentru a fi ¨vindecat¨de ¨problema¨ mea - da ai citit corect. Dar, asta e o poveste pentru altă dată.

Am adăugat pe Garrard pe twitter, și am cumpărat cartea lui, versinuea digitală. Cu anticipare am așteptat să se încarce pe telefonul meu cu o sete mare . Povestea lui a rezonat cu a mea, și m-a dus ptrintr-o călătorie emoțională făcându-ma să vărs lacrimi, să mă șocez, și chiar de uneori vreoam să pun mâna prin pagină să strangulez pe câțiva.

Dacă sunteți un părinte care vreți să treimiteți copilul la un astfel de terapie, vă rog să citiți această carte. Dacă tu însuși te gândești să mergi la un astfel de terapie, vă rog să citiți aceasta carte. Dacă doriți să ințelegeți ce face un astfel de terapie pentru un om in mod emoțional, fizic, și psihologic, citiți aceasta carte.